I'm a mom and HATE when people get push presents – it's so tacky, the focus should be on the baby
PREGNANCY takes a toll on a woman’s body.
Not only are they going through both hormonal and physical changes for 40 weeks, but they also have to deal with the intensity of labor and the aftermath that comes with it.
To recognize this effort, many women expect their partners to give them a push present after they’ve given birth—a sort of participation prize.
One mother named Maddie Gartmann—a cookie artist who goes by @gartygoodies on TikTok—gained nearly 3 million views and thousands of conflicting comments on a clip that revealed her controversial opinion about push presents.
In the video, she iced Mother’s Day themed cookies as she shared her thoughts:
“So, I first became aware of the concept of a push present when I was pregnant with my first born.
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“And basically, what it is is your partner gets you a present for having a baby.
“And I honestly thought this concept was really ridiculous, because the baby is kind of the present and it seems like of all days this is not the day to be materialistic.”
She was in a group with other new moms, and she would tell her husband about the ones who said they got a car or a designer purse as their push present—and both she and her husband thought it was a bit over the top.
“Fast forward to, I have my son, and I was in labor for about six hours and after I had him the hospital cafeteria was closed and I was starving.
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“So I asked my husband to go get us some food.”
The husband was missing for longer than expected, and when he came back he was holding more than a few bags of takeout.
“He also has this tiny black box. And he says, ‘I wasn’t planning on doing this at all, but I got you a push present.' And inside were two beautiful blue sapphire earrings.”
She was surprised to see the gift, as her husband is not a big gift-giver or jewelry-buyer, and she absolutely loved them.
“I’ll never make fun of push presents again.”
Viewers debated the topic in the comments section:
"So, you judged them for being materialistic until you got one, and then [you] became materialistic?" one pointed out.
Maddie replied to the comment saying, "After giving birth, and seeing the gratitude my husband had for me, I understood the significance of a birth present."
Another viewer related to Maddie: "I felt the same about push presents before kids, but my husband was like, 'I'll get you anything after 32 hours of labor.’"
Others, however, disagreed with her original sentiment:
"The baby is the present!? Pass," wrote one.
"I feel like the push present is to help cover the difference. The baby is a gift to both parents, but obviously one did more work to get there,” added a second.
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A third viewer got straight to the point: "Literally can't stand the [word] 'materialistic'. Gift-giving is some people's love language."
And a fourth shared their ultimatum: "If my partner doesn't get me a push present, they don't get another baby until I get a present first."
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