I thought I'd escaped my cheating ex – but I'm pregnant with his baby | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: JUST when I thought I’d finally deleted all traces of my cheating ex from my life, I found out I was pregnant with his baby.

I’ve decided to keep the child but I don’t want him back, or for him to have anything to do with the baby.

Getting pregnant was a bit of a miracle for me. I’m 40 and thought it was too late to have kids.

I just wish the father wasn’t the lying, unfaithful man who repeatedly broke my heart.

We were together for three years. I broke up with him two months ago when I discovered he’d slept with two women at work.

That was the last straw. I’d caught him out twice before, finding messages and other evidence that he’d been on dating sites.

He’s 43 and promised he loved me but I think he’s incapable of telling the truth. He was soon back to his old tricks.

And a few days after we split, he started seeing another woman — which shows how much I meant to him.

So I blocked him on social media and on my phone, and erased all my photos of him.

But two weeks after I threw him out, I started feeling nauseous.

We’d always used condoms but I took a pregnancy test just to be sure. To my amazement, it was positive.

I can’t wait to be a mum but I’m having a horrible pregnancy, with terrible sickness. However, I’m determined to do it alone.

He doesn’t even know I’m pregnant. Do I need to tell him?

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I’m worried someone else might. I think he’d be a useless father, as he’s selfish and a pathological liar.

My baby will be much better off without him.

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DEIDRE SAYS: There is no legal requirement to tell your ex you are pregnant. But if you are having his baby, he does have an obligation to support it.

If you think you can manage as a single parent and you don’t need his financial support, you could say nothing.

Do be aware that your child will have questions about his or her father, though, and might want to meet him. If your ex doesn’t know they exist, this could cause issues.

It is possible your child may resent you for keeping their father out of their lives. Think about how you would feel in this situation and what you will tell your child.

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Perhaps when you are feeling less raw and angry about the way he treated you, you might feel differently.

You do need support – from family, friends and your medical team. It could be helpful to speak to Gingerbread (gingerbread.org.uk, helpline 0808 802 0925), which supports single parents.

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