I want to call my girlfriend names during sex, but how do I ask her?

DEAR DEIDRE: I WANT to start calling my girlfriend names during sex but I don’t know how to ask her if it’s OK.

When I’m watching porn, I hear men talking dirty and calling their partners “bitch” or “slut”.


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It always turns me on, so I’d like to give it a try.

But my girlfriend’s pretty vanilla. I’m not sure it’s something she’d go for.

She’s 26 and I’m 28. We’ve been dating for two years.

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Our sex life has always been pretty good, but most of the time we work through the same three positions.

I’m sure there are things she’d like to try too, but we both get a bit awkward when it comes to talking about sex.

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DEIDRE SAYS: The best sex often follows a chat about it so you both learn what the other likes and needs.

Ask your partner if she’d like to try talking dirty – and ask what words would be off limits and what she’d like to hear in the moment. What is a turn on for one may be a turn off for another.

I’m sending you my support pack on 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex which will give you plenty of ideas on how to make your sex life more adventurous.

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