Sharing my wife's body with other men online made me think I'd like a threesome

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE loved sharing my wife’s body with other men on porn sites so much that I now want us to have a threesome.

We’re both 45, have been married for 18 years and have a good, if conventional, sex life.

But over the past year, things got stale. Being stuck together in our house 24/7, wearing sweatpants and with no outside stimulation meant neither of us felt in the mood for sex.

After a few months, we were making love once a week, when it used to be three times or more.

I started to worry my wife didn’t fancy me any more, and she began feeling insecure about her body — even though she has a cracking figure.

We knew we had to do something or our relationship would be in trouble. So I asked my wife if she fancied going on some porn sites and showing off her body to other men.

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To my surprise, she agreed. She was nervous at first but the comments from other men gave her a massive confidence boost and really turned me on.

The result was that we began having the best sex of our marriage. Instead of three times a week, we were doing it three times a day.

We couldn’t keep our hands off each other. We began sharing fantasies and I then suggested a threesome with another man.

She wasn’t sure at first but now she’s said she would like to give it a go.
The idea of sharing my wife with another man in the flesh is driving me wild with desire.

But I’m worried what would happen if we tried it and didn’t like it. Could it ruin our marriage? And what if she’s only doing it to please me?

DEIDRE SAYS: Threesomes can sound like a lot of fun, and discussing the idea with your partner can be a turn-on, but they are fraught with danger.

When you involve another person in your sex life, emotions and jealousy can become a factor.

Often, the reality is not as great as the fantasy because it can be embarrassing and awkward.

Before you consider doing this, think how you would really feel watching your wife having sex with another man.

You might feel jealous, inadequate or surplus to requirements. He might also want to touch you.

The last thing you want to do is wreck your relationship because of a sexual fantasy.

You need to sit down and talk this through together and work out if it’s something you both really want or if it’s just the idea of it you like.

If you decide to go ahead, you need to draw up some boundaries.

My support packs Thinking Of A Threesome and Sexual Fantasies And You will help you make a decision.

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