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Royal commentator Jennie Bond is in the running for the Telegraph\u2019s most delusional royal expert. I\u2019m fully expecting lots of commemoration-columns for QEII as we come up on the first death-anniversary, but I truly didn\u2019t expect it to be framed as \u201cPrince Harry\u2019s one year of estrangement.\u201d<\/em> The man has been living in North America for nearly four years, but sure. Bond questions, \u201cHarry is continuing to maintain a distance from his father and brother \u2013 but what are the effects of ripping up family roots?\u201d<\/em> Like\u2026 anyone who read Spare<\/em> can tell you exactly why Harry left Britain and why he\u2019s trying to break the cycle of generational trauma. Neglected and abused after his mother\u2019s death, he found ways to heal himself and he\u2019s on his journey to find peace and happiness with the love of his life and their two beautiful children. His story is one of resilience and courage to break those toxic familial bonds. But of course, Jennie Bond quoted an \u201cexpert\u201d at length to basically argue that Harry should \u201ccome back\u201d pronto. Some highlights:<\/p>\n A complete estrangement:<\/strong> Almost one year on from the funeral of his grandmother, the late Queen, his estrangement from his entire UK family seems complete. He will be in London next month for a charity awards ceremony on the eve of the anniversary of her death, but it is understood he has no plans to see his father, the King, or his brother Prince William. Instead he will head straight off to D\u00fcsseldorf for the opening of the Invictus Games for wounded servicemen and women, which he founded nine years ago.<\/p>\n Bitter Meghan?<\/strong> He has planted his own sapling 5,000 miles away in California. His children, Archie and Lilibet, are putting down American roots and will be the first branches of a new tree. But with their mother, Meghan, bitterly estranged from almost the whole of her own family (except for her mother and a niece) that tree looks decidedly sparse.<\/p>\n No thriving unless it\u2019s in the UK, apparently: <\/strong>In an interview which kicked off the whole saga of Harry and Meghan\u2019s unhappiness in the royal fold, the Duchess said, \u201cIt\u2019s not enough to just survive. You\u2019ve got to thrive.\u201d But can you easily thrive in self-imposed exile from all you have known since birth? And how much harder must it be when you are part of one of the most exclusive and mysterious tribes on earth: a royal family, steeped in a thousand years of history? <\/p>\n An expert:<\/strong> An expert in the field of human development, Professor Karl Pillemer, from Cornell University in New York, believes the emotional impact must be enormous. \u201cWhether you have originated the estrangement, or you\u2019re on the receiving end of it, people often feel betrayed, rejected, hurt, angry and resentful,\u201d Professor Pillemer says. \u201cThey feel the pain of broken attachment. We have strong biologically-based attachment responses \u2013 those don\u2019t just go away..Family events are a flashpoint for estrangement. They are filled with expectations of a happy family together, and that is entirely violated with estrangement. And if you don\u2019t attend, there is a profound sense of loss.\u201d<\/p>\n King Charles evicted his grandchildren, but whatever:<\/strong> How sad that little Archie and Lilibet have no prospect at present of getting to know their tribe\u2026 on either side of the Atlantic. And what a dreadful loss for King Charles. Bizarrely, Harry and Meghan have chosen to give their children their \u201ctribal identity\u201d insisting they be known as Prince and Princess \u2013 and, of course, Lilibet is named after her great grandmother Queen Elizabeth. Professor Pillemer believes it is the children who may prompt a reconciliation. \u201cMany estranged people begin to open up the relationship again, because they want their own children to have relationships with the rest of the family. And Harry and Megan\u2019s children are going to be reaching an age where they\u2019re going to begin asking, \u2018Why don\u2019t we see our relatives? I\u2019m certain, they [Harry and Megan] must be considering the impact on their own children.\u201d<\/p>\n They\u2019re saying Harry is headed for a breakdown:<\/strong> Professor Pillemer believes that fragile mental health can be made worse by estrangement. \u201cThere will likely be an array of emotional effects for Prince Harry and his family that include the pain of rejection, a sense of betrayal, a profound sense of loss, and most likely, a greater likelihood towards depression and anxiety as a result of this kind of relationship trauma.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n [From The Telegraph]<\/p>\n It feels so childish to argue that, because Harry adored and loved his grandmother, he\u2019s supposed to be cool with being neglected and abused by his father and brother. That\u2019s the argument here – you say you love one member of the family, so isn\u2019t it hypocritical to remain estranged from other members of the family? Like\u2026 what is wrong with these people? It\u2019s so silly and pathetic to argue that every family has to stay rooted in one place, forever, and that every family member has to be in each other\u2019s lives and no one is ever allowed to disagree or move or break a toxic family cycle. What f–king world do these people live in? (Also: they truly have no idea about Meghan’s family, they only know the toxic Markles – Meghan has Ragland relatives who have never sold her out.)<\/p>\n Photos courtesy of Avalon Red, Cover Images.<\/small><\/p>\n\n
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