{"id":85801,"date":"2023-09-23T09:32:02","date_gmt":"2023-09-23T09:32:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebritytidings.com\/?p=85801"},"modified":"2023-09-23T09:32:02","modified_gmt":"2023-09-23T09:32:02","slug":"my-12-year-old-daughters-friend-overstays-her-welcome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebritytidings.com\/lifestyle\/my-12-year-old-daughters-friend-overstays-her-welcome\/","title":{"rendered":"My 12-year-old daughter&apos;s friend overstays her welcome"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>My daughter&#8217;s 12-year-old friend overstays her welcome and uses my expensive shampoo when she sleeps over &#8211; should I confront her mother?<\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Mum complained on Mumsnet that her daughters friend overstays her welcome<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Read More:\u00a0Mum sparks debate saying kids should give up their seat for adults<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A mother has complained that her daughter&#8217;s friend\u00a0overstays her welcome and uses her expensive beauty products when she is invited round.<\/p>\n<p>Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the anonymous woman explained that she feeds the 12-year-old, cares for her and often hosts her for sleepovers.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>However, she said the arrangement is starting to bother her after she found out that on one occasion when the child slept over, her mother was out on the town for a date.<\/p>\n<p>When the girl&#8217;s mother eventually came to pick up her daughter she stayed in the car instead of thanking the family for taking care of her child all weekend.<\/p>\n<p>As she asked others for their thoughts on her predicament, many agreed that the mother was out of line &#8211; however when it came to the 12-year-old, lots of them expressed sympathy and said no one can know what&#8217;s going on in the child&#8217;s home life.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635637-12536371-image-a-66_1695207954317.jpg\" height=\"423\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>A mum complained that her daughters friend overstays her welcome and uses her expensive beauty products (stock image)<\/p>\n<p>The woman explained: &#8216;My 12 year old has a school friend. This girl frequently comes home from school with [my daughter] and I feed her, care for her, she sleeps here etc when her mum&#8217;s &#8216;busy&#8217;.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;She&#8217;s a nice kid, but prone to a lack of respect at times. She refers to me as her second mum which is slightly odd but somewhat endearing.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;It&#8217;s probably why I let some of her behaviour slide. Like, for example, she&#8217;ll decide she needs a shower and will go in to my ensuite and help herself to my very expensive shampoo and conditioner.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;She takes them back to [my daughter&#8217;s] bathroom, where after use she&#8217;ll leave them thrown on the floor along with her wet towels. Apparently the shampoo and conditioner I provide for my own daughter isn&#8217;t good enough for her hair type.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Anyway. On Friday after school my [daughter] calls. Can her friend come over? Okay I say. They turn up just before dinner&#8230; and this kid has been here ever since.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;She left about ten minutes ago after announcing &#8221;I&#8217;m going! My mum&#8217;s outside in the car. We&#8217;re off out for dinner, bye!&#8221;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Then out the front door she trots, wearing my daughter&#8217;s hoodie, socks and sliders. I doubt I&#8217;ll see those again. I asked [my daughter] if she was invited out for dinner too. She wasn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;This bothers me, and I&#8217;ll tell you why. On Friday evening she tells me her mum is out in town in a date. [My partner] and I exchanged a glance.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635627-12536371-Taking_to_British_parenting_platform_Mumsnet_she_explained_that_-a-68_1695208420632.jpg\" height=\"962\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet , she explained that she feeds the 12-year-old, cares for her and she sleeps over a lot in their house<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;So we are both aware that her mum&#8217;s off with a new fella thus she needs the childcare and so sent her kid here.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;On Saturday early eve the girls ask if they can go out and ask for money for food and drink. I send \u00a320 to this girl&#8217;s account because [my daughter] doesn&#8217;t have a bank card yet and I didn&#8217;t want to hand mine over.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;They head off to the garden of a local very reasonably priced chain pub for a coke and a pizza before going on to meet friends at the park.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>She continued: &#8216;My daughter calls later on to ask for a lift home. I say no, it&#8217;s still light and you&#8217;re a ten minute walk away, see you shortly.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;She chats about their evening and says they asked her friend&#8217;s mum for a lift home to ours but she was &#8216;too drunk&#8217;. When they arrived at the pub she was already there drinking apparently.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Am I unreasonable to think that if you&#8217;re going to palm your child off on someone else all weekend so you can go out to the pub and go on dates, and you&#8217;ve very much aware that someone else has given your daughter money for a meal out, then the very least you can do is get out of your car, come to the door and say thanks for having my child all weekend.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635633-12536371-image-a-84_1695208765659.jpg\" height=\"152\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635619-12536371-image-a-83_1695208757183.jpg\" height=\"74\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635623-12536371-image-a-82_1695208745592.jpg\" height=\"74\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635625-12536371-People_left_there_own_thoughts_on_the_situation_in_the_comments_-a-81_1695208734657.jpg\" height=\"74\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>People left there own thoughts on the situation in the comments with some saying the mum is being a &#8216;doormat&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;And if you want to take your kid out for dinner afterwards, that&#8217;s fine. But don&#8217;t tell your DD this plan until you&#8217;re well away from the house you left them at all weekend.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Responding to the post, people\u00a0left their own thoughts on the situation in the comments with some saying the mum is being a &#8216;doormat.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>One person wrote: &#8216;Why on Earth are you letting yourself and your daughter be treated like this?&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Another said: &#8216;The other mum is [cheeky] but I don&#8217;t understand why you&#8217;re allowing the behaviour? It&#8217;s your house, don&#8217;t let her use you shampoo or take the clothes.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>While someone else wrote: &#8216;Stop being such a doormat and allowing your daughter to be one too.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>However others blamed the child&#8217;s mother with some saying she sounds like she could be an alcoholic.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635629-12536371-image-a-80_1695208715853.jpg\" height=\"71\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635617-12536371-image-a-79_1695208704841.jpg\" height=\"151\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635621-12536371-However_others_blamed_the_child_s_mother_with_some_saying_she_so-a-78_1695208641521.jpg\" height=\"151\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>However others blamed the child&#8217;s mother with some saying she sounds like an &#8216;alcoholic&#8217;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/09\/20\/12\/75635631-12536371-The_original_poster_added_I_m_going_to_have_a_word_with_the_mum_-a-77_1695208624235.jpg\" height=\"312\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>The original poster added: &#8216;I&#8217;m going to have a word with the mum and tell her what I think.<\/p>\n<p>One person wrote: &#8216;Before I even got to the bit about her being drunk my \u2018alcoholic parent radar\u2019 was going off.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Yes the girl does seem a bit too comfortable at your house and lacks respect but I would hazard a guess she is escaping to yours from a chaotic life at home.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Another said: &#8216;OP you sound like a saint and probably the only stability this child has in her life.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Without doubt her mum is [cheeky] but the child will be forever grateful to you for bringing her up.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Someone else said: &#8216;Obviously she\u2019s [cheeky] and so is the daughter.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;However, you are really doing this for your [daughter] &#8211; if she is happy with this arrangement I\u2019d bite my tongue.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I would start putting some boundaries in place though (like no going in my ensuite !).&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>The original poster added: &#8216;I&#8217;m going to have a word with the mum and tell her what I think.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I&#8217;ve also asked my daughter how she feels about her friend being here all weekend and so often. She said she&#8217;s her best friend, of course she likes her being here.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;As for the &#8216;borrowing&#8217; clothes, I&#8217;m writing a list of the items that haven&#8217;t been returned and will give it to the mum when I have a word.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;There&#8217;s no way I&#8217;m going to just cut this kid off. She&#8217;s sweet and kind. She&#8217;s absolutely tiny too, which makes me feel she&#8217;s perhaps more vulnerable than she actually is.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;But she tells me she loves me and she made me a Mother&#8217;s Day card etc., so I think she&#8217;s crying out for a maternal figure.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Yes she&#8217;s a cheeky little madam with things like helping herself to my things, but I do care for her very much.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/femail\/article-12536371\/My-daughters-12-year-old-friend-overstays-welcome-uses-expensive-shampoo-sleeps-confront-mother.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My daughter&#8217;s 12-year-old friend overstays her welcome and uses my expensive shampoo when she sleeps over &#8211; should I confront her mother? 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